Advice to Teenage Girls

• Lori Palminteri
• Uncategorized
• September 29, 2025

While I think and hope I don’t have many, if any, teenaged girl fans, this is more of an advice piece for people with young girls becoming women in their lives…

Recently, I was at my close friends house (who I once nannied for) and her beautiful high school daughter entered the room lamenting that boys don’t like her and it must because she is “not pretty.” Despite trying to boost her confidence (she, like everyone in her family, is good looking), I later thought on it and realized I don’t think I did a proper job propping her up.

Women have always been subjected to impossible beauty standards, but it’s never been harder than it is for the phone obsessed and TikTok bombard GenZ. I meet girls in their early twenties getting botox or lip injections, which is wild to me. (Side note: Ladies, I have never met a guy who likes lip injections. Stop it.) Jamie Lee Curtis called the overuse of plastic surgery in Hollywood a “genocide of women,” and while that might be a strong terminology, I don’t really disagree her.

Instead of telling young girls that their filters are stupid (they usually are) or diminishing their feelings that they themselves are not enough, we have to look to empower young girls in a real way. And a lot of this starts with ourselves.

There are times I still fall into the toxic victim mentality of thinking I’m not pretty enough when I get rejected (I know, it’s so crazy since I’m SO hot). The truth is, every girl and woman does. But it’s also the truth that victim mentality is unattractive in itself. Ladies, you are the prize. The thing men think about 24/7. Learn to be a Queen, and then, and only then, will you attract the right people.

As a teen, I was terribly insecure about my body. I was an odd case because I was such a late bloomer (grew four inches in my 20s, didn’t get boobs till 23), I basically had an androgynous body till I was out of my teens. Most of my friends were guys, but these were almost always platonic. I became a sort of middle person for the boys and girls. I learned a valuable lesson. Teen love is the most fleeting love there is. That doesn’t mean their excitement of new love or heartbreak when it ends isn’t valid. Either way, “this too shall pass.”

Teenaged boys especially are horny little pricks thinking with, as my mom always told me, their “little brains.” A teenage boy may fawn over you one weekend, promising you the moon and several constellations, only to be quickly distracted a few days later by a girl who smiled at him who has bigger boobs. Teenage boys are retarded. And I don’t care if you’re offended by my use of that word here. In fact, talk to literally ANY guy in their 30s or older and ask them how they behaved when they were in high school or college and more than likely they will tell you themselves that they were complete idiots. Guys really do mature much slower than girls.

My advice for your teenage daughters? Tell them to focus on themselves while trying to make their environment a better place. Study hard in school. Take care of your body by being active. Also, guys love an active girl over a girl who spends hours doing their makeup. It’s okay to care about dating and boys, but don’t make it your priority. Being desperate is a turn off. Young guys especially love a chase or the “girl who’s hard to get.” Don’t let your crush not liking you diminish your self worth. Remember, the heart wants what it wants. Genitals also want what they want, often to not in the best interest of the user (lol). Understand that just because someone doesn’t “like you, like you,” doesn’t make them a bad person.

What I mean by “making your environment a better place,” is, be the best friend, sister, daughter and neighbor you can possibly be. These are much more meaningful and lasting relationships. The more you’re able to be a good friend, sister and daughter, the more beautiful you are on the inside and that beauty will radiate outward to anyone worth paying attention to. You want to attract a benevolent knight? You have to have good hearted Queen energy. Work on it.

Finally, my last bit of advice is to be friends with the opposite sex. Yes. Just friends. Why? Because you’ll have a better understanding of each other. And when women say “I just don’t understand men,” (or visa versa), you can roll your eyes. Also, guys who don’t want to be friends with women outside of having sex with them ARE NOT WORTH YOUR TIME. I CANNOT emphasize this enough.

So, girls, go out there and be fabulous. But more than that, be kind. High school and college end pretty quickly. And trust me, anyone who’s over 25 who says either high school or college are the best years of their lives are complete losers. The best is yet to come. The best YOU is yet to come, it may take a little work, however. And not cosmetic work, damnit!

When high school drama feels all encompassing, remember the wise words of the prophets from another time… “it’s only teenage wasteland!”